It’s May 2013 and my husband and I are in JFK, waiting for our connecting flight to San Diego. We are traveling to our new lives, in a new city and newly married. I’m giddy, I’m a wife and I’m a recent college grad. The honeymoon is over and I’m spending most of my time surfing for job openings and sending out my resumé. If you told that me my entire career plan, that I so perfectly and confidently out-lined was all crap, I would have told you to go to hell. That me even created a timeline in Microsoft Word and I had no doubt that everything was going to go as planned.

Fast forward 3 years, I have two dogs, a great marriage and timeline that looks more like a highway system than a straight path. A while back the thought of being undecided would have given me an anxiety attack, now I realize that’s just part of life.

Here are a few things I’ve learned:

• When you are on your own THAT is when you start to find out who you are.
• The future will come. If you are constantly stressing about the future you will miss the present.
• Twenty-five is NOT OLD and you still have plenty of time to figure things out.
• Every day do at least ONE thing that makes you happy.
• It’s okay to screw up as long as you learn from it.
• Actively try to figure out your next move. Visit schools, read motivational books, doing anything is better than nothing. 
• Life will inevitably screw you over, multiple times, but it is just something you have to get through. 

I don’t have all the answers and I am still trying to figure “me” out, but it’s not the end of the world if life sucks every now and then. Sometimes life sucks so bad it gives you pounds of lemons and limes and you only drink water. Trust me you’ll figure it out eventually and remember you can use fruits as chasers…or you can throw them at people you don’t like, either or.

Love,

M&MJ